I love reading and I'm actually in the process of writing my own book for you all to read. But I want to tell you about a really inspiring book that I read last year! The book was called, Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes. I never really knew who she was, I knew she was a writer of some powerful television shows, some of which I had never seen. But I knew that I liked Grey's Anatomy and that her other productions looked very interesting. I don't really remember what made me buy this book, but as soon as I got it I could not put it down. I read it cover to cover in just a few days, I loved it. And I've since read it 2 more times, I just can't get enough.
Let me tell you a little bit about what this incredible book, it's a little bit of an auto-biography and explains how hard Shonda worked her whole life, worked though hardships and being a single mother of three. Who realizes she's been saying no and not truly living to the best of her ability. And I've found myself in the same boat more often than not, lately. I say no, because I'm comfortable with staying home or because I'm feeling lazy after a long week. While it is normal and natural to want to relax you also need to get out in the world and say yes!
Through the book you get to grow with Shonda, starting with her social anxiety, depression and unhealthy lifestyle and watch her bloom into someone who glows with confidence and pure happiness.
You will learn that using your voice is so powerful, don't be afraid to vocally express yourself. Because doing things that you don't want to do just because someone else wants you to do them won't make you happier at all. You need to be able what you want to do as well as what you're obligations are whether it be for work or home. I'm not telling you to tell your boss no, every time they tell you to do something, that would just be silly. But if you have a different way of doing something, or just don't have the time to do that project don't be afraid to speak up and express yourself. Don't let them run you to the ground because you don't think that you can say no. Stand up for yourself in any situation because you may have an opportunity to not only change your life, but potentially help other people in similar position.
You will also learn to love yourself in your own skin, even if you're not in where you want to be in your health journey you still need to love how far you have come and everything your body has done for you. Work everyday towards where you want to to be and try your best not to stress about it. Don't let people bring you down because you don't have the body they they want you to have. Do you know how how silly that is? We get down about how we look because it makes other people uncomfortable, because they don't want to look a the extra weight you have on your belly, or your small chest our your puffy eyes. Who cares? As long as you feel beautiful and you are happy what other people think should not effect how you feel about yourself.
Thirdly, you will learn to grow closer with people you love. Get rid of all those nasty people who don't support you, you don't have your back and don't help you reach your dreams. You will get to see who is truly behind you when you start staying away from the bad energy and toxic relationships that have dragged you down or way too long. Sometimes we forget out worth and that tends to make us be pushed over and walked on because we just don't want the fight. We don't want to stand up for ourselves just to be shut down. We don't deserve that! We deserve love and joy every day of our lives and if we aren't finding it with the current people are are surrounding ourselves with then we need to let go and find some people who we can share this life with. So get together with those people you love and share some memorable experiences together. It will be so much more meaningful to live life with the people whom your heart loves. You all can grow and learn about them as well as have them learn about you.
Lastly, love like you've never has a broken heart. Shonda didn't want to want to fall in love and she certainly never wanted to get married but once she opened up her heart to the idea of loving again she wasn't opposed to the idea of getting married. She didn't keep her walls up and her heart closed. She was open to ideas about love and dating. Even if you've had your heart broken into a million pieces you have to get back on that horse and love again. Because how amazing does love feel? How great does it feel to love and to be loved? Don't deprive yourself of being loved just because you are scared of getting hurt. Love to love!
I love this book and have officially decided that my 26th year is going to be my year of yes. Through my heart, my mind, my joy, family and experiences. I'm going to see and do things I've been to lazy and closed off to do thus far. I'm going to say goodbye to people who don't have my back. I will keep you posted throughout my year of yes. But I encourage you to take the leap of faith, trust yourself to love yourself! This book has taught me so much about myself and gave me hope about how far I can go in this world by just believing I can. You can change your life too by making a few changes and opening your mind, heart and soul to the possibility of a whole new world. Imagine the possibles of the next year and beyond. Do it! You don't need to life this life day by day without seizing the day, it's not fair to you! Say yes! And pick up this book and read it today, read it a million times.
I'm going to read it again this afternoon! I just can't get enough of this book! I loved how well I can relate to someone who is famous and well known, who is way more successful then I could ever hope to be. She has struggles just like you and I, she didn't like her body, and she liked watching TV after work, she had self doubt but she changed it all just by changing the way you think and keeping an open mind about trying new things with new people.
Make a list of some of the people and things you need to close in this chapter and make another list off a few things you want to try and experience in this new chapter. This way you can visually have an idea of some of your next steps.
I can't wait to hear all about your journey, and I hope it include reading this amazing book!